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The secret power of women: Missing and failing relationships.

Updated: Apr 16, 2019

The way to the Kingdom of GOD on Earth - Part I:

The Secret Power of Women: Missing and Failed Relationships.

The bible says in Proverbs 14:1 (KJB):

« Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. »

There is something peculiar with this verse as conventional wisdom suggests that the building of a house, with the associated physical hardship, is a task normally devoted to men. Now, why would the Bible designate a woman as the one who builds a house ? Clearly, the endeavor that is being referred to is not just a physical one. It's more of a spiritual one or a conceptual one, at the least.

As a matter of fact, women are the only ones to whom GOD gave the ability to build anything whatsoever that is meant to come to fruition. From a biblical point of view, the house in the verse may also be viewed as a human body, the temple of the body (John 2:19-21). If women were given the power by GOD to build the most sophisticated thing on earth, how much more things are they actually able to give birth to ? The truth is they are able to « conceive » and « deliver » any project they have been impregnated with. Be it a baby, an artwork, a job, a business, an organization, a car, or, of course, a house. You name it !

It appears that men, who received the power to devise whatever project, are totally ill-equipped, at the least to say, to give birth or to materialize any such project without the help or more accurately, the intervention of women. Interestingly, seen through the prism of social behaviors, men are perceived as the mighty achievers when women are considered as the passive recipients of men's achievements, meant to enjoy the fruits of men's labor before « extinction » parts the couple… This is the origin of the troubles that are encountered in relationships. Women are found in a position where they expect their future husband to have it all already acquired. From the microwave to the four-story house, via the high-caliber minivan with all the options packed in. Conversely, men who clearly perceive the lack of true commitment in a relationship based on material possessions exhibit an inevitable lack of faithfulness. As a matter of course, as emotional beings, women, in addition to the material comfort they pursued in the first place, require also love from their bridegroom. The thing is, to have it all pre-acquired, these men who display material achievements have necessarily resorted to some female agent in their life who had to be fertilized with their ideas and dreams in order to materialize those acquisitions. It could have been an ex-wife, an ex-girlfriend, a family sibling or even a non material being from some spiritual realm. According to the female agent who helped manifest such acquisitions, the newly married man will display a specific type of unfaithfulness or lack of commitment. The case of a spiritual mate is certainly an interesting one to observe. Of course, the ideal situation would be for a woman to deal with a sincere Christian who would have resorted to the Holy Spirit in order to transform his potentials. The truth is that such men are rare. The cases of spiritual beings that are more likely to be encountered are the « unholy » ones. It would not be surprising to see such a bridegroom getting involved in a relationship with some other woman who suddenly would appear out of nowhere soon after the marriage. Which would be indicative of a takeover of an equally unholy physical woman by such a jealous spirit in order to « rightfully » enjoy her relationship through that woman. As such a process goes essentially unseen, one can only imagine the bitterness of the bride against the entire world and GOD Himself for having been abandoned or neglected by a man who displays a better interest in his object of unfaithfulness. That is the tragedy of failed relationships.

Of course, the wise attitude for a woman would have been to invest in her own relationship in order to transform the potentials of a carefully selected bridegroom and bring to fruition the projected comfort of which no other woman, no entity, could have deprived her. This unfortunately is not exactly the general practice, especially among young girls. They often sacrifice a promising relationship with an unquestionably grateful and respectful bridegroom on the altar of greed and immediate material satisfactions (Proverbs 29:18). That is the tragedy of missing relationships.

This is not to condemn women. Because, on the other hand, the situation is equally regrettable as what is often witnessed is the lack of respect toward their wife by self-sufficient men, clearly ignorant of the true origin of their wealth. The lack of knowledge on both sides of the true nature of a woman is without a doubt the origin of the perturbed relationships which can also lead to some form of death of the persons involved and the society in general (Hosea 4:6).

The woman appears to be the ground on which, the seed is to be planted so that can be materialized the will of her man in various things, but also that of GOD for the entire society. On earth, the greatest organization a woman is capable of bringing to fruition is clearly the Kingdom of GOD. Relationships are definitely the vector of the transformation of the society. The great challenge they are faced with has no other explanation than the works of an enemy which are aimed to prevent the coming of the Kingdom of GOD. The materialistic distraction that intends to hinder the emergence of the Kingdom of heaven has no other objectives than the preeminence of that of the prince of this world (Luke 4:5-8).

As we all talk about the Kingdom of GOD for which the flourishing rests in the heart of the woman through a spiritual commitment as the pluck rests on her hands with materialistic concerns, the question we should ask ourselves is perhaps what we do of the woman in our societies, or maybe what we do about « those relationships » so that the seed of our planting favorably lands on a fertile identified ground. We cannot agree more with man of GOD Farrakhan when he states that no society can rise above its women and the answer to all prayers are made through the womb of a woman.

The Lord Jesus says :

« The kingdom of heaven is like unto leaven, which a woman took, and hid in three measures of meal, till the whole was leavened. » Matthew 13:33.

Bukoko Ikoki, Ordinary citizen.



As of Christ, we do not accuse. Neither do we judge, nor condemn. We do not stone. We do not curse. We bless our enemies and persecutors. While we let the dead bury their own dead, as we pick up our Cross, we revive our loved ones from lethal errors.


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